Spilling Tea: The Ethics of Drama Coverage on YouTube

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  • January 14, 2020 at 4:39 am
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    PART TWO of my discussions about drama & commentary channels. Share your thoughts!!
    TIME STAMPS BELOW:
    0:00 – intro
    1:23 – the pattern of drama coverage on youtube, using the Nikocado Avocado & Stephanie Soo situation as an example
    1:42 – step 1) tea is spilled
    2:20 – step 2) audience reactions & response videos
    4:22 – step 3) tea channels reupload clips and receipts
    4:54 – step 4) Person #2 responds
    5:52 – step 5) more reactions, response videos, and drama recaps
    8:22 – step 6) involved people continue to make response videos
    8:38 – step 7) most viewers lose interest, but videos will still be made as long as some people will still watch
    9:12 – we must re-examine if & how we interact with youtube drama
    9:46 – sometimes dramatic situations contain important takeaways
    10:49 – we can make larger points about the drama that happens online, rather than focusing on trivial details
    12:18 – tbt to when I made the mistake of jumping on the bandwagon of "covering" the James Charles & Tati situation
    13:13 – drama & commentary channels have a responsibility to admit when we are wrong
    13:31 – are drama and commentary channels "journalists" ?
    14:32 – the five core principles of journalism, and how they relate to youtubers
    17:29 – are drama and commentary channels "bullying" ?
    18:11 – remember when Jake Paul called Cody Ko a bully?
    19:58 – my personal conflict in making videos about other youtubers
    20:58 – just watch ContraPoints' video on Canceling, ok ??

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  • January 15, 2020 at 3:37 pm
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    Hi Tiffany! Can you analyze about this Doomer, Boomer, Chad, etc culture from the internet and get depth into it? I feel like there's classification about people but it's only applied on the internet, cause in real life we can't really put people into categories.

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  • January 15, 2020 at 3:39 pm
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    Just wanna say you look fabulous 💥 love the new hair!

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  • January 15, 2020 at 3:40 pm
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    500k, yay <3

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  • January 15, 2020 at 3:45 pm
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    I’ve recently been exposed to this part of YouTube or ‘ Youtube Drama Court’ and it’s actually nuts I discovered beefs between people I didn’t know existed and found myself (wrongly) believing one more than the other.I regret being exposed to this world.It’s crazy how invested people become in their beefs when no one knows what actually happened.Nor should said dramas be monetised both primarily by the main YouTubers then by the feeder channels.I think theyre popular as viewers are probably between 14-21 mainly as that’s the vibe I get considering how petty it all is.It’s all a shambles and a monumental waste of time and less dramatic than it all seems.Its all the same ‘He did she did he said she said ‘ and that’s neither provable without a doubt nor is it sending positive vibes into the youtubesphere.
    YouTube Court is nuts

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  • January 15, 2020 at 4:08 pm
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    I'm not a journalist, but my mom is. For one of the biggest newspapers in The Netherlands (for over 20 years). And she gets really frustrated about how many people assume they can do the same as her just because they have the ability to write. Covering the news or an item takes time and a certain set of skills. Moreover, it's a huge responsibility that people have given their life for (just take a look back at history, WWII fe).

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  • January 15, 2020 at 4:21 pm
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    media study lol

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  • January 15, 2020 at 4:29 pm
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    You match your bed, hehe

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  • January 15, 2020 at 4:33 pm
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    Congrats on 500K 🎉

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  • January 15, 2020 at 4:35 pm
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    About Cody and Noel. It's not because we like them. They are literally giving their reaction to the content. Their reaction happens to be laughing and cracking jokes – as is majority of ours. I don't think it's bullying at all. If you make cringey shit people are gonna make fun of it.
    That's what i feel. Great video btw.

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  • January 15, 2020 at 4:38 pm
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    Part of me is really irritated when stuff is called "drama" because it really trivializes some of these situations where someone is clearly displaying manipulative, predatory, abusive or generally harmful behaviors. I just find it funny that online in all situations it is drama but if you told someone this in real life it would be serious and concerning. The thing is the distinction needs to be made between someone got upset over gummies or whatever and someone manipulated, took advantage of and weaponized someone's past trauma against them to make them do what they wanted knowing that they were psychologically reopening old wounds and making someone feel unsafe with them and in their home. It wasn't like Stephanie and Nik had other issues they were beefing over and then Stephanie dropped something out of nowhere just to make him look bad so that she could win some other kind of argument- this was and always has been the issue.

    I don't like this example as drama because Nik has a pattern of being emotionally/mentally abusive and that isn't just "regular internet drama.

    As someone with PTSD I can tell you this- people with trauma or more likely to be targets for manipulation by abusive people because they can use it against them to make them do what they want and make themselves seem like the victim. It really really pisses me off that people are acting like it is just more drama. I could go through and clearly list all his red flag behaviors and how they are signs of abusive people and how you can tell by Stephanie's past (she's talked about some in these and other videos) and her behaviors during and after this that she clearly has trauma some of which she clearly expressed to Nik.

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  • January 15, 2020 at 4:50 pm
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    "Spilling the tea" , a common known talk started used by most African American female when talking about drama, just like getting the " bag" meaning getting money. Ghetto talk as other folks would call it!!! Now it's trendy talk!!! Smh.

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  • January 15, 2020 at 4:56 pm
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    Hello 500K! Congrats!

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  • January 15, 2020 at 5:19 pm
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    Omg you hit 500k! So proud of you 😭 have loved watching your channel grow!!!

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  • January 15, 2020 at 5:30 pm
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    You had me hooked when you called me dude and said you're a wrapped burrito. Relatable girl🌻

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  • January 15, 2020 at 5:37 pm
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    god it must be so exhausting having to carry the entirety of youtube's social commentary channels on your back

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  • January 15, 2020 at 5:39 pm
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    "who has the time for an hour and a half long response video?!"

    Me, driving 2 hours to get the school: …lol ikr….who would watch that…haha

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  • January 15, 2020 at 5:52 pm
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    I am not interested in youtube drama, I think is unnecessary and just helps people get views, and money. You could easily start a fake drama with your friends on youtube and if it works, views = money. bts you are doing me very well, I love intellect. Also what's the point about posting your private life on youtube, if you just want to ruin someone's career do it without everyone else knowing period

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  • January 15, 2020 at 5:53 pm
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    Some unsolicited advice from a classical singer on how to keep your voice healthy! Someone please correct me if I'm wrong, but my tutors and various professionals have told me that if you're speaking and singing in a healthy manner, your throat should never hurt, even after doing it for hours. What I've learned from them:

    1. Stay hydrated. If you feel thirsty, your body has already been dehydrated for a long time. Don't let yourself get thirsty.

    2. Don't scream, whisper, etc. Dynamic extremes can damage your voice.

    3. Open your throat. This is the one I have the most trouble with, to the point that I have a dedicated 20-minute warmup specifically for throat-opening when I sing. I speak very forward in my mouth, which creates lots of tension in my throat. A simple exercise to encourage your throat to open is to start each day by speaking like Julia Child for 5-10 minutes. Julia Child's voice is the absolute extreme example of open-throated, back-of-the-throat speaking, as opposed to close-throated, forward-in-the-mouth. Don't speak a specific verse or anything, because if you, say, were to recite the Emancipation Proclamation every morning, you would only associate this open-throatedness with the Empancipation Proclamation. Eventually, your muscles will be taught to relax a little, and when you revert back to your normal speaking voice, you'll have less tension.

    I love your content. Take care of yourself!

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  • January 15, 2020 at 6:11 pm
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    Your blanket looks like a skin disease. Not that I wouldn't wear it

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  • January 15, 2020 at 6:15 pm
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    Can you make a video about service/mission trips and voluntourism ?

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  • January 15, 2020 at 6:36 pm
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    Omg i remember believing Tati and feeling so stupid afterwards

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  • January 15, 2020 at 6:45 pm
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    Yeah, I think it would be a psy student, not soc student that could answer your question bc that’s more of an individual or group psychology thing rather than a society thing.
    Haha, we’re definitely biased about Cody Ko. He’s just so funny and practical.
    I think a lot of people are canceled for no good reason and they don’t have an opportunity for growth. On the other hand, ppl like Harvey Weinstein (idk how to spell his name and don’t care) need to be shamed, canceled, and put in jail so they can’t harm others. (Although,the prison system is a hot mess with a lot of ppl in there that do not deserve to be.)
    Then there’s situations like Lizzo and the post-mates girl. I have to admit, it made me feel a little less obsessed with Lizzo after that. Then I caught myself..she’s human. We’re going to fuck up in life and it’s those fuck ups that teach us humanity, how to apologize, and how to grow to be a better version of ourselves.
    Thank you again for another video. I watched the thrifting video and I can’t remember if you talked about this but what are your thoughts on the prices going up in stores as thrifting becomes more popular? I worry that people that really do need those super low prices are going to not have access to them anymore. I’ve been thrifting my whole life through the times where I was broke af and didn’t really have a home, was staying at peoples houses, living off quarters and change to now where I have a stable income for the first time ever. I worry for the people who were in my position or worse. I worry now, I’m part of the problem. Can you make a second video about how we can help in this issue? Maybe talking to a thrift store owner or two about pricing and the lack of plus size clothing (yes there are online stores but what about ppl living in poverty that need plus sized items without online access)?
    You da best, Tiff❤️😊

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  • January 15, 2020 at 6:59 pm
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    I don't know if using Stephanie's situation was a good example, because you're talking about people overreacting, doing bad things with cancel culture, and it makes it seems like Stephanie was in the wrong and her situation wasn't serious

    (sorry for bad english)

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  • January 15, 2020 at 7:08 pm
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    I would argue were in a mostly post ethics era for journalism were journalist prior to 2015 became political grifters because partisans on both sides eat that stuff up it's extremely profitable and drama channels became ethical because they would be financially or reputational harmed they don't have a salary they work on donations through patron

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  • January 15, 2020 at 7:12 pm
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    I love your look today. 100% confidence, 101% burrito blanket.

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  • January 15, 2020 at 7:39 pm
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    Just reading nikacados comments make me smh

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  • January 15, 2020 at 7:43 pm
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    I would love to see your take on how some YouTubers respond really negatively to their audience. There’s a YouTuber (JenLovesReviews) that I watch and she gets incredibly defensive and kinda hostile whenever someone criticizes her, especially when the comment is ambiguous.

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  • January 15, 2020 at 8:02 pm
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    23 minutes of NOTHING.

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  • January 15, 2020 at 8:09 pm
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    I only watch drama videos because I have an actual problem with YouTube and have repeatedly struggled to reduce my exposure. Against all reason I actually run out of things to watch on youtube and I end up in a drama hole because apparently is rather watch a video I don't like than no video. The strange thing is that I didn't watch normal TV at all for over a decade. Not sure how this has happened.

    There is still a lot of channels I really enjoy though. Perhaps I will find you on Instagram or something and we can exchange channel reccomendations to lessen the burden our YouTube addiction puts on us

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  • January 15, 2020 at 8:10 pm
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    Ceo of critical thinking

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  • January 15, 2020 at 8:11 pm
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    Burrito blanket FTW!!!

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  • January 15, 2020 at 8:19 pm
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    I feel like you come from a side of research and curiosity in how/why people are the way they are on social media. I think it does give opportunity for thought provoking conversation. I love watching your videos because of this!

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  • January 15, 2020 at 8:29 pm
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    unrelated to the topic but i'm not a native english speaker and your diction is so good and clear i don't even need captions to understand!

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  • January 15, 2020 at 8:32 pm
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    bangs look really good on you!

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  • January 15, 2020 at 8:39 pm
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    I get most of my drama-fill from the subreddit "AITA" or "Am I The Asshole?", where the drama is anonymous, so people aren't exposed in a toxic way. And you can form an opinion without taking sides, since you don't know the names of these people or how they behave in their daily lives.

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  • January 15, 2020 at 8:42 pm
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    500k subs♡

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  • January 15, 2020 at 8:42 pm
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    dont know what to say, but want to support the algorithm. hmmm, love this as usual, huge supporter of the channel. well done:) <3

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  • January 15, 2020 at 8:46 pm
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    I saw a tweet yesterday, it said “who else has a celebrity that they just HATE for no reason?”
    I think we live in a world where people like to jump the gun and hate people for no reason. it’s so sad, especially seeing the hundreds of comments listing all these “innocent” celebrities.

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  • January 15, 2020 at 8:49 pm
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    You know what we need? Im not religious by any means but we could have like 10 ethic "commandments", Just a moral code to abide by if you want to influence people for the good.

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  • January 15, 2020 at 9:05 pm
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    500.000 subscribers?! Well done!

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  • January 15, 2020 at 9:09 pm
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    Hi! Does anybody know other youtubers that make videos like her? I really enjoy these videos so please let me know 🙂

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  • January 15, 2020 at 9:12 pm
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    Hey Tiffany, there's a problem I'm going through with my group of photographers and I wonder if you could help me sort it out. It has to do with shooting boudoir with underage women… (Which I am very much against). I know youre probably super busy in your own life but I don't know how else to talk to to sort this out…

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  • January 15, 2020 at 9:13 pm
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    You should check out Contrapoints' video on Cancel Culture. It's kind of an adjacent topic to what you cover here, but she talks about a lot of similar issues!

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  • January 15, 2020 at 9:16 pm
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    As someone that took a few journalism courses(former communication major), though I was taught that I'm supposed to represent the facts from all sides to the best of my abilities, my professors emphasized how even when reporting the facts you can still be biased and skew things in the perspective you want.

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  • January 15, 2020 at 9:19 pm
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    Congrats on 500k!!!

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  • January 15, 2020 at 9:40 pm
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    Congrats on 500K!

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  • January 15, 2020 at 9:49 pm
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    With the James Charles drama, what really bugs me is that Jeffree Star made REALLY BAD accusations towards James and then never provided "receipts". Like that can ruin someone, why do people let him and Shane do whatever they feel like when they are literally causing damage? I just don't understand.

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  • January 15, 2020 at 10:16 pm
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    yesss ive been waiting so long for someone to make a video on this!!

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  • January 15, 2020 at 10:42 pm
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    aside from the commentary and stuff and you know, gr8 content, ur hair lookin fiiiiiire

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  • January 15, 2020 at 10:50 pm
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    I thought she had blood 🩸 all over her blanket o was like uhhh Tiffany are you ok 😅

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  • January 15, 2020 at 10:50 pm
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    you "I don't like replies that are hours long"
    also you recommends the contrapoints video

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  • January 15, 2020 at 10:55 pm
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    Unfortunately a lot of these tea channels are followed by young impressionable children/pre-teens who can’t think for themselves. I’ll be dammed if grown adults are being this easily manipulated on the internet. There’s three sides to every story; your truth, their truth and THE TRUTH! I always wait to listen to both sides before making a stance on anything unless it has to do with racism there’s really no excuse for that.

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  • January 15, 2020 at 11:00 pm
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    Spill isn't simply a drama channel btw nor is it a commentary channel in my opinion. It uses drama to inform of other issues. Could be psychological, legal etc

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  • January 15, 2020 at 11:21 pm
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    I am far too old for the drama portion of YouTube.

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  • January 15, 2020 at 11:25 pm
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    I'm more concerned about the major vile threats and accusations nik has been receiving. Nik's been a bit of a jerk but it's going to far

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  • January 15, 2020 at 11:29 pm
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    in this house we stan contrapoints, period! it's so great to see women like you and her make videos like you do on this platform, such underappreciated work imo

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  • January 15, 2020 at 11:29 pm
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    Yeaaahh, you had me till you plugged ContraPoints at the end. As a non binary person I highly suggest you do more research on her and why people are ACTUALLY upset with Natalie. She’s always been incredibly shitty and dismissive towards non binary peeps and is now using buzz around “cancel culture” to deflect from the very real valid criticism being aimed at her by other LGBTQ creators. I’m not interested in listening her to complain about being called out for being a truscum when she won’t even acknowledge the reality of other trans and non binary people’s lives.

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  • January 15, 2020 at 11:34 pm
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    5:23 cough cough contrapoints cough cough

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  • January 15, 2020 at 11:37 pm
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    ContraPoints is only jumping on the “cancel culture is going too far!” bandwagon now because she doesn’t like that other LGBT creators are calling her out for her truscummy ways. Remember when she had that patreon stream where she accused hbomberguy of being a “virtue signaler” because he held a steam to raise money for a trans charity? What the fuck was that? throwing a tantrum that other people in the community are doing more actual work for her.

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  • January 15, 2020 at 11:40 pm
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    Congrats on 500k!!

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  • January 15, 2020 at 11:47 pm
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    congrats to 500k girl

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  • January 15, 2020 at 11:54 pm
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    Tiffany hitting all the good points once again

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  • January 15, 2020 at 11:58 pm
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    The new Contrapoints video is SO good! Thanks for mentioning it!

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  • January 16, 2020 at 12:03 am
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    I think people just like to be outraged, and also they are entitled. When someone isn’t exactly the image they thought they were or they learn something they don’t agree with, automatically they must be cast out. There are thousands of other “fans” of these people to account for. Just because you don’t like something about someone doesn’t mean they need to be “cancelled” or even called out (depending on what it was or when it was). We are not owed anything by these people, sorry? They are their own people. Mob mentality is a huge factor too. The internet is very good at mob mentality.

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  • January 16, 2020 at 12:09 am
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    Do you have a video discussing Onion Boy (lol)? I refuse to watch his videos, and I just want a concise video summary of the events. I've been trying to follow and keep up, but there's so much info! Also, if you don't plan on making a video, can you or someone else recommend a good video? Thanks much!

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  • January 16, 2020 at 12:10 am
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    I would love a shirt that says "we love critical thinking babyyy" lol

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  • January 16, 2020 at 12:14 am
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    I always resented a world that platformed someone like Onion Boi 🧅 ever since he was super popular and when he originally posted Shiloh’s breakdown to exploit her. I would sometimes see news of him grooming another girl but now Chris Hansen?! He is getting involved?! I try to ignore Onions existence but now I am going to see this monster have spotlights on his extremely abusive behaviour and content by a larger audience e outside of those who use YouTube as a bigger source of entertainment.

    Also, these drama channels are not journalism and often very juvenile.

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  • January 16, 2020 at 12:16 am
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    Wearing Ashleys earrings ✨✨

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  • January 16, 2020 at 12:28 am
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    ContraPoints’s Cancelling video is a masterpiece! I saw she uploaded at midnight and I was like, “am I really gonna stay up another two hours to watch this? … yes, yes I am.”

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  • January 16, 2020 at 12:29 am
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    ok but you would look amazing in a pixie

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  • January 16, 2020 at 12:31 am
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    Hey, just wanted to say that I totally agree that cancel culture is not it, but also contrapoints has some misinformation in her video. She accuses Anthony of being a nazi stalker, hiding behind a screen when they are an actual trans person who is sincerely concerned with contrapoints' promoting a gatekeeping transmedicalist. As a non binary person I find it very hard to watch her videos, as she is supposed to be an educator but gives my already vulnerable community a bad name.

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  • January 16, 2020 at 1:16 am
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    that eye shadow with your hair color is incredible! also i cant look at your bedspread without thinking of whales haha are they whales?

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  • January 16, 2020 at 1:17 am
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    Your time stamps are extremely helpful and underrated and I hope this becomes a trend.

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  • January 16, 2020 at 1:30 am
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    Congrats on 500K! ❤️

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  • January 16, 2020 at 1:31 am
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    Great video! In response to your dilemma about sacrificing content for people's feelings, I would also argue that you are not responsible for the feelings of other people. Bullying is certainly a traumatic experience that we always want to try to avoid, but I think the line between "bullying" and "healthy criticism" is marked by respect. If people "are sad" as a result of your critical but respectful content, I wouldn't take on that emotional burden as your responsibility. People need to own their own shit.

    Thanks for making great content ~ 🙂

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  • January 16, 2020 at 1:40 am
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    is…. is that a tortilla blanket?

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  • January 16, 2020 at 1:47 am
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    People need to watch more novelas

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  • January 16, 2020 at 1:49 am
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    I cant watch drama videos or celebrity news. Its too draining for me mentality. I actually made a video on why I canceled on my Netflix and why I dont watch TV anymore

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  • January 16, 2020 at 1:54 am
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    The instincts of trusting those narratives is definitely easier to explain with psychology but could also be described from a sociological perspective.

    In psychology referring to YouTube as a platform it mostly has to do with group psychology and the difference between an individual that has the wish to be socially accepted/approved and on the contrary the individual that’s more the independent kind. I understand it like a spectrum on which everyone can be placed. This spectrum works for the people who produce those videos as well as the people who watch them and have the urge to be a part of it.

    From a sociological perspective tea-spilling is something connected to power, to gain power, to execute power etc. it is connected to the concept of authority and the different kinds of power like charismatic, traditional and and another one I can’t remember at the moment (theory by max Weber).

    Just a real short and simplified perspective from a sociology/psychology student 🤗

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  • January 16, 2020 at 2:16 am
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    trump 2020

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  • January 16, 2020 at 2:32 am
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    Biased AF

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  • January 16, 2020 at 2:32 am
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    Great part 2! Really appreciated your insight.
    Coming from the perspective of someone with PTSD and who's been kinda-sorta following the situation, I think another thing that the Soo and Nick drama addresses is the way that we as traumatized people respond to triggers. Both Soo and Nick have mentioned their personal histories with trauma (Soo's triggers as she's described them are are based around feeling trapped and incapable of agency, while Nick's are feelings of abandonment or withholding) as they've impacted their roles in the current situation, and I think there should be a little more discussion on the ways in which the two of them have responded to their own triggers – Soo, by internalizing the pain and holding it to herself for a long time, and Nick, by overreaching and reacting very strongly against not just the triggering event but also the person acting out the given trigger.

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  • January 16, 2020 at 2:32 am
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    Hello Tiffany

    I did not know how else to reach you, but I have noticed a trend that I would love to hear your take on!

    No Buy Years. Youtubers vlog their experiences of trying to spend less money for a year. I think it comes from the same vein as minimalism. I have found the whole concept extremely frustrating to watch. Some of my fav Youtubers have become completely unrelatable as their major NO BUY Challenges consist of placing constrictions on their spending that I have had to live with every day, regardless of the challenge.

    'Only replace things once they are finished'
    'Only buy clothes once a year if you really need them for a special event'
    'Don't buy more than 30 new books a month'
    etc

    It only made me realise how ridiculous their spending has been.

    The No Buy Challenge is essentially rich people cosplaying being ordinary folk and its really frustrating to watch.
    On the other hand, perhaps their spending has been crippling them financially and this is a net good.

    I don't know if you'll see this, but I hope you do. The conflict between Minimalist financial goals like this one and real poverty that enforces the same circumstances is one I trust no one else to tackle.

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  • January 16, 2020 at 2:42 am
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    Contrapoints has made an interesting video about drama and cancelling. It's longer than this vid but goes into a lot of detail and perspectives and is a very interesting take. This vid was also great 🙂

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  • January 16, 2020 at 2:45 am
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    “Please, lets stop rejoicing in, lets stop enjoying…having fun with scandals and drama. I’m guilty of this too.”

    To like drama is to be human. It is part of our evolutionary human psychology. Grooming behaviors are very important in maintaining personal and and social bonds in primates. It is thought that gossip is human form of grooming as it helps form bonds with other individuals and find our “rank” in the social group. So…probably not going to go away but we can try and do it better with less harm to others.

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  • January 16, 2020 at 2:48 am
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    I'm am SO here for your eyeshadow matching the hair, girl your blue eyes couldn't pop anymore without your pupils coming out to punch me thru the freaking screen, beautiful!!! I always love your earrings too they are always unique and just plain cool.

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  • January 16, 2020 at 2:53 am
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    It sucks to see so many people I respect and I know are really good people STILL associate themselves with Keemstar. I've seen it throughout the years, as soon as some lame drama comes out regarding someone he considers a friend, this guy would not even hesitate to "expose" them.

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  • January 16, 2020 at 2:53 am
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    The word truth makes me laugh in a way. Is there truth? I think about that a lot. What is it when a supposed fact was once impossible, flying was once impossible. Facts although ,theybare facts are subject to change , which to me says truth is also subject to change. Its subject to perception , interpretation and our ingrained bias of course. Can cameras tell the truth, who could tell actual 100 percent truth like perhaps a security camera but even an camera has its angles and its glitches and the eyes who watch are human and again use perception to understand something so what the hell can ever be absolutle truth. Its def something interesting to think about if your ever bored. I often wish my dogs could talk to get thier perception lol what the hell secrets could they tell, would they tell the truth ? Lol not high I swear.

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  • January 16, 2020 at 2:54 am
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    I think people overvalue the opinion of those on screen so much that they undervalue their own in the comment section. What happens is a combination of things:
    1) you don't find the odds of your comment being read that high (part of the undervalue)
    2) in a drama situation where you can either offer a critique or support, there are so many strangers on the internet who are doing the same that this is the time you feel you have a way of influencing the influencer, as a combination of voices, choose a side.

    Any video where you're inclined to either agree or disagree, is going to have a lot of activity. Vs cat videos or makeup tutorials where any kind of criticism would be out of context to the video and relatively random, any kind of positivity would also be out of context because the influencer doesn't appear to need that kind of support.
    It's therefore addicting to people to go to that drama because they feel a reward to their procrastination towards whatever stress is going on in their real life.

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  • January 16, 2020 at 3:34 am
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    Re: the question of likable bullies, I think of The Office (US version). In the episode Classy Christmas (season 7, ep. 11/12), Dwight, a pretty unstable and socially clueless character, takes epic revenge on Jim, the likeable audience-insert character, for all of Jim's previous pranking. Now, Jim's pranks are hilarious (for the audience), but they always truly upset Dwight. When we laugh at Jim's pranks, we laugh at Dwight's discomfort. So Jim's pranking is bullying, especially because Jim is popular and Dwight is not. Isn't that the classic set-up? Popular kid makes fun of loser? In Episode 1 of the series, when Dwight complains that Jim has put his stapler in jello "again", why do we not see right away that Jim is being a bully? Because Jim is charming. But if Jim were also kind, he'd see that Dwight wasn't having fun with the pranks, and he would stop.

    Yet, when I talk to people about their reactions to the Classy Christmas episode, they don't see Dwight's behavior as justified, or even as the inevitable snap of an unbalanced person after years of persecution. They see Jim as a victim of Dwight's terrible social skills: Dwight is at fault both for not knowing "how to take a joke" when he's the victim and for "taking a prank too far" when he's the perpetrator.

    What's especially interesting about this dynamic is the possibility that many bullies may not know that they're bullies, because they don't mean harm, or don't get negative feedback from anyone except the "loser" who "just can't take a joke". Popular YouTubers chasing views and ad revenue might not feel very powerful, but their videos making fun of others still get millions of views, and that is power. Bullying when you don't mean to bully could happen.

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  • January 16, 2020 at 3:39 am
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    I don't know why but I would loveee and appreciate a collab with you and Harmony Nice! Who's with me?

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  • January 16, 2020 at 4:21 am
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    "cancel culture" is just something made up by privileged people who got upset that they're now being regularly held accountable for their actions

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  • January 16, 2020 at 4:24 am
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    I feel like it’s dumb for youtubers to share their drama with everyone on the internet when it just creates criticism and hate online. a lot of the time i think that it could just stay private

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  • January 16, 2020 at 4:24 am
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    Wow, I found it really interesting that by the core ethics of journalism (I think that’s how it was worded) most news outlets today would fail.. cough.. Fox News.. cough .. and many others but they are the worst offenders..🧐

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  • January 16, 2020 at 4:43 am
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    wow I didn't know the British phrase 'couldn't be bothered' is now being used by Americans! we need to teach you the acronym "cba" 🙂

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  • January 16, 2020 at 4:43 am
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    Nothing better than listening to your favorite YouTubers in the background and then checking your phone and seeing that there’s still more time remaining in the video.

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  • January 16, 2020 at 4:49 am
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    These drama channels are just as toxic as tabloids

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  • January 16, 2020 at 4:50 am
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    One thing that bothers me about the drama channels covering the Stephanie Soo business at the moment, and it is pretty much all of them, is all the titles saying that Stephanie and Zach are suing Nikocado. Their statements have been that they're retaining lawyers. I'd say that cease-and-desists and restraining orders are much more likely, but "suing" sounds juicier I guess. But then that's leading to Nik's supporters using the misinformation and running with it.

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  • January 16, 2020 at 4:51 am
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    Missed an opportunity to call this “The Tea on Tea”

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